Neurotic Needs (coping mechanisms)

              From looking at all 10 neurotic needs, I don’t see myself in any position. But the most common neurotic needs that I would choose probably is 'for affection and approval'.  Why would I say that? Well, I guess I can say that I care a lot about what people say. When they tell me, " I wish you could be more of this personality or that kind of person..", it makes me reflect a lot about why they say it or will being this or that way please them more in general? When I was younger, I never really had social contacts with people around me. I normally stick to myself, not caring what others say or thinks about me. But after becoming out-going and active around people, it makes me wonder and try to find out what people around me feels. I would often show that I don’t care what people think, but deep down some of what people thinks would stay in my mind spinning around nonstop.  It is true of what was said when people over chooses this need. I became somewhat sensitive to rejections and criticisms.

                The only neurotic needs that I see myself involved in is 'for affection and approval', but one of the neurotic needs I would want more of would be 'for personal achievements'. I really want to push myself harder to achieve something greater in life for my future and for my family's pride, but it is something very hard to do. It would need a lot of effort and focus to achieve something great in life. For me to really achieve something, I might need to seek for challenges to help me climb up the achievement ladder.