Neurotic Needs (coping mechanisms)

              From looking at all 10 neurotic needs, I don’t see myself in any position. But the most common neurotic needs that I would choose probably is 'for affection and approval'.  Why would I say that? Well, I guess I can say that I care a lot about what people say. When they tell me, " I wish you could be more of this personality or that kind of person..", it makes me reflect a lot about why they say it or will being this or that way please them more in general? When I was younger, I never really had social contacts with people around me. I normally stick to myself, not caring what others say or thinks about me. But after becoming out-going and active around people, it makes me wonder and try to find out what people around me feels. I would often show that I don’t care what people think, but deep down some of what people thinks would stay in my mind spinning around nonstop.  It is true of what was said when people over chooses this need. I became somewhat sensitive to rejections and criticisms.

                The only neurotic needs that I see myself involved in is 'for affection and approval', but one of the neurotic needs I would want more of would be 'for personal achievements'. I really want to push myself harder to achieve something greater in life for my future and for my family's pride, but it is something very hard to do. It would need a lot of effort and focus to achieve something great in life. For me to really achieve something, I might need to seek for challenges to help me climb up the achievement ladder.

Defense Mechanisms (unconscious)

Personality Development Assignment

                Everyone in this world have their own problems at hand. Whether its family problems, relationship issues or work area conflicts, we humans usually use one of the 10 mechanisms to prevent our problems and difficulties. At first, it may be a good thing to prevent bringing back the problems and put them aside, but at the longer run there might be a time where all those problems will explode and more problems might occur. Whenever something troubles me or a problem comes about, the two mostly used defense mechanisms would be Sublimation and Reaction formation.

                Normally when I have a conflict with someone, I use 'art' to help me push away my anger and frustration. Drawing is one of the most common thing I do when I get upset. It might even inspire me at that moment to come up with an art piece that my vivid imagination creates. But time after time, the frustration and anger that I once pushed away generally return to haunt my emotions. I often get really depressed when I think back to the problems and conflicts that I once faced and it really bothers me. Another way of distracting myself would be 'singing'. When an arguments occur and with all my emotions to the point of irritation about to outburst, singing my heart out usually helps calm my rage down.

                When I was younger, calm and quiet was the descriptions about me. My classmates didn’t even know I existed in class because I was very passive. When I started attending high school, I usually had a lot of arguments with my parents and it really made me miserable because who would want a bad relationship with their families? So, in order for me to get rid of those memories, I decided to become outgoing and just have a blast in life; thinking that way it might help me erase the bad times I had. Therefore when being with friends, I normally have a tendency to try sharing jokes or  being funny. From doing something that's not me, it became me. I got adopted to being loud and staying free, which it really made me a happier person in life. But I ask myself, "who am I really? Is this the real me?".

                One of the defense mechanisms to be chosen into use, would be Sublimation. That mechanism helps people calm down without having to throw a tantrum, instead it is replaced by something we can do or something we like to do so to ease down the situation. Also by replacing our anger into something physical or socially acceptable, it helps reduce our frustration and anxiety.

Category E: Social & Political Attitudes

Test and Score	Low Range	Medium Range	High Range	Test Date
26. Social Permissiveness (Norm=15) Your Score: 8	0 - 10	10 - 21	21 - 32	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Low Range You tend to disapprove of liberal ideas and favor strict censorship, legal control of so-called vices and severe punishment for offenders. You have little respect for viewpoints that may threaten the status quo. You may feel the need to control and manipulate in order to safeguard the rightness of your own identity.
27. Racism (Norm=11) Your Score: 3	0 - 6	6 - 17	17 - 26	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Low Range You recognize the essential worth of all persons, whatever their race, sex, age, ability, belief, inclination or circumstance and therefore would not discriminate between people for any of those reasons.
28. Belief (Norm=15) Your Score: 20	0 - 10	10 - 21	21 - 26	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You are likely to have taken on a range of beliefs that were were taught by parents teachers, church and social media. Nevertheless you may question some of these and be skeptical about adopting new beliefs.
29. Socialism/Capitalism (Norm=23) Your Score: 28	0 - 18	18 - 29	29 - 50	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range Between the totalitarian extremes of Right and Left lies the central majority of people, at least in Western democracies, with a range between Republican/Tory right-wing politics (tending to be religious); Democrats/Liberals in the center; and in Europe, Socialists/Labour on the left (with both the center and left tending to pacifism and environmental concerns).
30. Libertarianism (Norm=11) Your Score: 21	0 - 6	6 - 17	17 - 27	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the High Range You place great value on freedom of the individual and the protection of human rights. You are opposed to interference in your life from the State, for which you have limited respect. In extreme this would be an anarchist or someone who has a problem in accepting any kind of authority, even if it is imposing sensible order.
31. Reactionism (Norm=16) Your Score: 13	0 - 11	11 - 22	22 - 27	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You like to think you are a progressive thinker, open to new ideas - but then you may react against movements that threaten your interests directly, whether or not they are based on reason. This scale has fairly high correlation with age.
32. Pacifism (Norm=10) Your Score: 17	0 - 5	5 - 16	16 - 25	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the High Range You believe there is no justification for war; you would prefer a policy of non-violence whatever the outcome might be - indeed you may think a Gandhi-like policy would ultimately be more effective. Being gentle, humane and empathetic, you are repulsed by all violence. Generally speaking, women tend to be more pacifist than men, though that stereotype may become a thing of the past.

Category D: Sexuality

Test and Score	Low Range	Medium Range	High Range	Test Date
22. Sexual Libido (Norm=21) Your Score: 13	0 - 16	16 - 27	27 - 42	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Low Range Sexual libido (sex drive) is often correlated with quick sexual arousal, interest in visual explicitness and a liking for impersonal penetrative sex, which is rather a masculine view of the nature of sex and does not take account of the equally strong more feminine drive towards procreation, the aesthetic pleasure and eroticism of sex, and the expression of intimacy through shared pleasure and contact. When partners are happy to contribute towards the fulfillment of each other's needs and desires, then compatibility is possible and male values complement female. This requires communication, honesty and empathy, which is why sex in the context of a loving relationship is so much more fulfilling. With libido on the low side, you are likely to have no impulse for voyeurism or exhibitionism, a distaste for sexual explicitness and especially pornography and have no strong longing for the physical act of intercourse. You may find it hard to get sexually aroused, or conditions may have to be "just right", which implies there is not a compatible partner with whom empathy and intimacy is readily available. On the other hand, you may be looking for more spiritual qualities than being "good in bed" or the sex drive may have been satisfactorily sublimated into other creative activities.
23. Sexual Satisfaction (Norm=21) Your Score: 16	0 - 16	16 - 27	27 - 35	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You are likely to be quite satisfied with your sex life. You are moderately shy and occasionally a bit prudish. You are only a little nervous with the opposite sex, and just a little embarrassed when taking about sex. A person's satisfaction with their sex life may be quite independent of his or her sexual appetite. Some couples may be quite fulfilled sexually without frequent active sex; this is more likely to be the case with older people.
24. Sexual Permissiveness (Norm=16) Your Score: 8	0 - 11	11 - 22	22 - 35	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Low Range Your low score shows that you who take sexual intercourse as a serious matter, that you have regard for the marriage vows, you are guided by religious dogma and are not in favor of "immorality" in any shape or form. Fear of homosexuality, as with incest, is a very deep-bred, archetypal phenomena and of course contradicts the fact that human sexuality contains all shades of grey. Most people have noted themselves attracted to their own sex at some time, especially during adolescence when sexual identity and boundaries are being explored, and if this is resisted (to obey the cultural norm) it becomes a fixation and the source of inner conflict - the cause of a great deal of unnecessary suffering and neurosis. Jealousy is another factor behind intolerance of sexual expression. Again (and like the territorial instinct) this is very deep-bred; the mating instinct causes one to fight off all potential takers of one's partner's attention and to distrust the partner�s fidelity. In the case of a genuine relationship this would not be necessary and genuine affection cannot be enforced on another. Real love is unconditional and does not seek to control and manipulate the other.
25. Sexual Stereotype (Norm=16) Your Score: 7	0 - 11	11 - 22	22 - 35	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Low Range You tend to agree with a stereotypical female point of view regarding sexual matters and to disagree with the typical male point of view.

Category C: Mastery/Sympathy

Test and Score	Low Range	Medium Range	High Range	Test Date
15. Aggressiveness (Norm=12) Your Score: 13	0 - 7	7 - 18	18 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You are rarely overtly hostile, but you still may on occasion use aggressive means to get your way or impose your will, and you feel aggressive if you consider yourself wronged.
16. Assertiveness (Norm=15) Your Score: 17	0 - 10	10 - 21	21 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You normally stand up for your rights and express your point of view, but may back off if there is a likelihood of 'causing a fuss' or aggression from a person in authority. Assertiveness is often confused with aggressiveness, but really it is a matter of standing up for your rights and for what you feel is right. As long as you are not rude, or inconsiderate of the rights of others, the ability to be assertive is an asset and is necessary to achieve worthwhile aims and impose some order and justice in your environment.
17. Ambition (Norm=14) Your Score: 19	0 - 9	9 - 20	20 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You want to achieve good things in your life but you may back off, due to pressure to conform, the fear of failure (or even of success), or the lack of a clear vision for what you hope to achieve.
18. Manipulation (Norm=12) Your Score: 13	0 - 7	7 - 18	18 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range On occasion you may feel the need to be manipulative. Most people would like to have empathic relationships since empathy is necessary for good communication, shared agreements and mutual understanding. However, the need to be right, fixed ideas and the stresses of survival may sometimes drive people into manipulative strategies, as seen all too commonly in the home or in the workplace.
19. Sensation-Seeking (Norm=15) Your Score: -	0 - 10	10 - 21	21 - 31	-
20. Dogmatism (Norm=15) Your Score: 16	0 - 10	10 - 21	21 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You like to think you look at things objectively and flexibly, not just in black and white. However, there may be areas of prejudice, where you have fixed ideas that prevent an objective overview, and you may not even be conscious of this. Always good to look again at the facts and the merits of all sides of an argument.
21. Masculinity/Femininity (Norm=13) Your Score: 7	0 - 8	8 - 19	19 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Low Range You are easily upset by another's misfortune, by blood, bugs, brutality, etc., and are fascinated by delicate matters such as romance, children, fine arts, flowers and clothes. Obviously women tend to score more toward the feminine than men but there is a great deal of variation within each sex and the cultural conditioning of gender stereotypes is under increasing scrutiny.

Category B: Emotional Stability

Test and Score	Low Range	Medium Range	High Range	Test Date
8. Self-Esteem (Norm=18) Your Score: 16	0 - 13	13 - 24	24 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You have a reasonably good opinion of yourself and you assume others think likewise, or certainly, not on the contrary. Therefore you are not particularly self-conscious and you will act according to your own judgment, not just pandering to what others may think.
9. Happiness (Norm=18) Your Score: 17	0 - 13	13 - 24	24 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You are not entirely satisfied with your work, play and relationships. Some things are upsetting for you and some problems cause worries. Life is full of challenges but to be happy we need some success at overcoming them - for this reason Trans4mind's personal development resources are organized around 30 or so common Life Challenges, so that you can focus on and learn new skills in these areas.
10. Anxiety (Norm=15) Your Score: 19	0 - 10	10 - 21	21 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range Those with average scores get anxious on occasion, though not usually irrationally. They can face up to problems if they're not too threatening.
11. Obsessiveness (Norm=10) Your Score: 11	0 - 5	5 - 16	16 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You are reasonably casual and easy-going, and you can be spontaneous and have fun. However, you also see the need for order, routine and ritual when appropriate.
12. Independence (Norm=15) Your Score: 13	0 - 10	10 - 21	21 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You tend to base your life on the way you have been brought up, fulfilling your parent's expectations, and conforming to the fashions of your peer group. But sometimes you "wake up" and reject overt dismissal of your freedoms and rights. A person may be self-directed or directed by others. Autonomy or self-determinism is eroded by the cultural conditioning of our upbringing and the continuous assault of the media, so that many lives are to a considerable extent programmed, as in a hypnotic trance. Therefore it is a good idea to regularly "wake up" and check if you still are being true to yourself.
13. Hypochondria (Norm=9) Your Score: 9	0 - 4	4 - 15	15 - 25	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You are concerned about your health, but not obsessively so. You are realistic and don't imagine problems you haven't got. The problems you do have are not amplified by irrational fears. Nevertheless fears about ill health in the future may exist - it's important to take full responsibility about your health to ensure such fears are unfounded.
14. Guilt (Norm=12) Your Score: 14	0 - 7	7 - 18	18 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You may regret some incidents in your past. Also you may be concerned about an aspect of your present behavior that you don't feel is as ethical as it should be. You also may accept things as being 'right' or 'wrong' due to cultural influence without making your own independent and objective evaluation.

Category A: Introversion/Extraversion

Test and Score	Low Range	Medium Range	High Range	Test Date
1. Activity (Norm=16) Your Score: 14	0 - 11	11 - 22	22 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You are are moderately active and don't mind doing activities if they are not too demanding. You are unlikely to be fanatic or obsessive in your behavior, but on the other hand, you may procrastinate or put things off if any doubts or fears are involved. NOTE: The score obtained by a majority of other people representing the particular culture in which this questionnaire was originally tested, provides a "norm." No evaluation, complimentary or condemnatory, should be attached to extreme scores, high or low. The norm is not necessarily "right" as the majority of people tested may have a cultural tendency that is far from optimum.
2. Sociability (Norm=16) Your Score: 21	0 - 11	11 - 22	22 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You will probably have a range of friends and associates but not consider yourself particularly "popular." You feel comfortable enough in company but don't particularly relish being in social situations with people you don't know well.
3. Risk-Taking (Norm=15) Your Score: 17	0 - 10	10 - 21	21 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You are prepared to take risks but only for a very good reason and if the danger is minimal.
4. Impulsiveness (Norm=17) Your Score: 17	0 - 12	12 - 23	23 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You normally reflect at least a little before you act and you're aware of warning signs. You're not inhibited from doing something that may well be a beneficial opportunity.
5. Expressiveness (Norm=11) Your Score: 16	0 - 6	6 - 17	17 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You may be reluctant to express particularly intimate or painful emotions outwardly and openly, but you're not normally held back from the expression of your thoughts and feelings.
6. Reflectiveness (Norm=17) Your Score: 17	0 - 12	12 - 23	23 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You tend to give matters due consideration before you commit yourself. You'll look at the pros and cons - but not obsessively so; you can make a decision in good time and act on it.
7. Responsibility (Norm=14) Your Score: 17	0 - 9	9 - 20	20 - 31	16 Jan 2011
Your Score is in the Medium Range You are reasonably careful and responsible about matters under your jurisdiction. You don't act rashly without proper consideration of what may happen.